Students of the social sciences are first taught to face hard truths. We were bred to assess social reality and see if it conforms with our ideology so that if dissonance arises, we may adjust our own views in order to harmonize with the external world.
Such critical perspectives are also necessary in assessing our own personality, character, and behavior. We do it all the time, but not always consciously. This constant self-scrutiny leads to that feeling of a dreaded perception of inauthenticity within ourselves. What used to be common practice seems so wrong, stretching not just our thoughts but our very values to its limitations. For this internal conflict did not root from an instance of sudden realization, but rather as a result of day-to-day activities that led to your individual awakening. Ultimately by accepting this change, you come to accept a new idol of yourself subsequently embracing it with delight. If not delight, a sense of relief.
Those years of being who you were is now a strange person to you. But you come to accept those terms. You are now a different person with some values left behind while others newly embraced to make you accept this new authenticity. We usually take this for granted, this constant endeavor exploring our very own being. What better way to mock it so by transforming it into clichéd statement that seems so shallow as “people change.” But nothing can come farther from the truth, for it is this very change that argues for the beauty of our own identity.